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Current things, About our lives| mrmicky |
Posted: April 12, 2011 12:20 pm
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 The Pwnerer  Group: BB:S Team Posts: 1397 Joined: September 15, 2006  |
Neiko, I don't have any idea how hard it must be to deal with that. I have been with my Girlfriend for a long time now, and I can only IMAGINE how hard it must be bro.
There is absolutely nothing wrong in crying at all, just think positive and try to move past it. Sorry if I make it seem easy; because it's really not and I know that. I really am terrible at trying to give advice, but if it was me I think talking to a close friend or parent may be the best thing in order to start the moving on process. Maybe going out and having some quality time with somone else is just what you need. Sorry to hear about this man, hope you feel better soon. --------------------  Lightsaver the energy efficient Lightsabre |
 
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| Neiko |
Posted: April 12, 2011 02:30 pm
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 Uberzernichter Group: BB:S Team Posts: 905 Joined: January 17, 2006 |
I'm usually pretty good during the day unless a song that reminds me of her comes on. It's before bed that kills me. I'm laying there, about to go to sleep, and she comes to my mind. My mind is instantly racing with all the memories I've had (the good ones anyways), and no matter what I do, I'm unable to get her off my mind unless I do something else. Doing something else though, isn't going to sleep (which I need to do =/).
It sucks, but I feel like it's slowly hurting less each time. Had a mommies boy talk with my mom (=p), and that helped a bit. I've come to sorta realize why some people cut themselves, or the like. At least for this. Some people do it to be cool or whatevs, but the pain I feel when I think about her, and how much I miss her, it feels so miserable, and there is no release. I'm just stuck sitting where I am, or if I'm standing, I pretty much just collapse and lay on the floor and start crying. I just want the pain I'm feeling to stop, but it doesn't, and I can't do anything to stop it. I just lose almost all willpower, and everything else seems pointless. I want to stop the pain I'm feeling, but I can't find a release, the only thing strong enough to release the pain, is another pain. A physical pain. I contemplated doing that, or just something else, so I can feel a different pain to help get over this. /emo, but I sorta understand why some people do it. I still think it's pretty stupid, but I see a reason to it. If I did it, I wouldn't keep doing it afterwards, or stupid shit like that. Alcohol would probably help, but I'm not 21. And you need to be 21 in the states to purchase some =/ -------------------- |
  
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| Keyes |
Posted: April 12, 2011 03:49 pm
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 I'm On A Boat Group: Moderators Posts: 2264 Joined: December 04, 2004 |
Neiko, that is a pretty shit thing to have happening, and I'm sorry to hear that this is the case. I myself went through a pretty shaky breakup, and it was painful as hell to get through - hell, it's been almost a year since things were shut down for good, and it still gets to me a little. Haven't had a girlfriend since (though can't say that's for lack of trying...however, after reaching this year, I've pretty much thrown in the towel).
Thing you need to keep in mind is your friends and family are - I hope - there for you - and, I've found, after a while you don't need to sit with them and talk about the mess you feel your life is without the girl (not saying this is how you conduct yourself, I'm just offering an example), but instead focussing on other topics. Alcohol doesn't help, cutting DEFINITELY doesn't help long-term and is an ultimately futile exercise that you will come to regret if you end up with scars, and desperately trying to contact them and beg them to take you back almost never works (except in rom-coms, apparently, and fuck rom-coms, they're full of lies, damnit, LIES!). Just gotta stay strong, holmes - a good cry might help, though I personally can't testify to that (not saying I'm too manly to cry, I just can't seem to let it out that way). I can fully get on board with the whole being-unable-to-sleep thing, as I suffer from insomnia and the stress of the breakup really didn't help things. A method of keeping your mind off things is through some really heavy exercise - try lifting weights, going running, taking up a martial art, anything that will tire you out to the point where you end up KO-ing as soon as your head hits the pillow. Plus, the human body tends to respond well to exercise, and you'll find yourself feeling a lot better. I've probably got more pearls of probable wisdom at my disposal if they need dispensing. In most cases, I can provide a helpful "How NOT to do it" guide - but dealing with breakups is something I'm confident I can deal with. That, and mixing whiskey-based cocktails, but that's another story  Hope things go better for you, amigo. --------------------  |
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| iliketoblowzombieheadsoff |
Posted: April 12, 2011 06:53 pm
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 Ratatatatatatatatatatatattatatt Group: Members Posts: 4896 Joined: May 26, 2006 |
Dang, dude..... that is just too damn painful to see.
Maybe that girl wasn't for you..... maybe there's going to be a better girl out there. Yet still, you get to a point where you share so much things with the girl and it gets too painful for her to go away. It must be hard, mate..... Suppressing your pain with a substance/some other substitute isn't healthy, mate..... and crying's a healthy way of letting it out. Trying to keep it in isn't good... Give it time, mate and you will recover. Yes, it might take a while and the road might be violent, but it'll be worth it in the end. Leaving you like that is just... so damn wrong of her. -------------------- Current game(s): Uh uh not updatin' this no mo
Looking forward to: Some shit Name Shortcut: Zombie, Isit, Bob(not recommended) |
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| FirehawkBBs |
Posted: April 12, 2011 08:52 pm
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 Real zombie Nemesis Group: BB:S Team Posts: 327 Joined: February 09, 2011 |
I feel very bad for you Neiko
 just so rude of her to send such text messages.carry on man, you will find a better girlfriend. --------------------  IronOakStudios deserves a new forum :) |
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| Neiko |
Posted: April 12, 2011 10:48 pm
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Uberzernichter Group: BB:S Team Posts: 905 Joined: January 17, 2006 |
Thanks all
@keyes, I figured alcohol would have been a decent cover up for the pain, but I've never used it for that yet, so I wouldn't know. And idk if something is wrong with me, but I've never been able to fall asleep once I hit the bed except for one time. No matter how tired I am from work/etc., I'm never able to just "Fall Asleep" unless I have lacked a large amount of sleep. Like sleep for 3 hours, work all day, little tired, but can't fall asleep instantly, get another 2 or 3 hours of sleep, repeat. Then I can fall asleep the second I hit the bed. =/ One of the main things that hurts, is how <2 weeks after our official doneness, she was able to be with someone else. Idk how she could move on so fast. That, and I wish we could have an official goodbye, not just ignore eachother and it's done. =/ This post has been edited by Neiko on April 12, 2011 10:49 pm -------------------- |
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| Palmpekerhead |
Posted: April 15, 2011 04:37 am
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Neiko, My man i know how your feeling and what you are going through, it sucks a bunch. My girl was just about the same as yours, we were off and on for 2 years but it officially ended before Christmas. Again, it started off like yours, every time i would try to talk to her through text or through phone, it would just be a hangup , or simply, "Your An Asshole". The thing that hurts the most is, she fucked a guy right after we broke up. And i didn't realize that she had done that until a month ago. . i had a bunch of rage in me to kill that guy, but after that went, i went on months of crying and just staying in my basement gaming and trying to stay out of the real world. Believe me man, cutting does not work. Its been awhile, but every time i see her once in awhile i still want to cry, shes with a different guy now. I Only wish that guy was me. Besides my emotional and love life is fucked, Everything else is going good. passing all my subjects....Partying with friends as much as i can, just trying to forget. --------------------   |
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| Elite viking |
Posted: May 03, 2011 12:47 am
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 Veteran Lord Carnage Group: Old BB:S Betatesters Posts: 2471 Joined: December 16, 2004 |
I come back after one of my long breaks, and first thing I see is Neiko's post.
While it has been a few weeks, these things can hurt for ages, and a little sympathy and "there, there"'-ing from others almost never hurt. It sounds like the best would be if you got some closure, like you say yourself. Actually talk with her and get things out of the way, and not an open wound (the be a little dramatic). I hope things get better, maybe they even are better already. I almost can't imagine you not having your sleep schedule in order by now. It feels a bit odd swtiching over to my current status, but that's what this thread's all about, so here goes: [rant] Since last time, january, I actually hooked up with a girl properly for the first time in my life! Last time, if you can call it that, was a weekend at my cabin, involving liqour, ending up with me making out with several girls. The high intoxication means it doesn't really count. Well, this time, I was watching a show with my family and a girl I kinda knew. Afterwards my mom suggested we go have a glass of wine/ a beer. She made in no way subliminal hints that this girl was worth pursuing whenever she visited the bathroom, and talking about me with her, saying I never had the guts to make a move . So yeah, alcohol involved this time too, but a lot less, and this time, my mom pushed me/her/us to do it >_> Afterwards, when we had parted with the family, we went out to a club, and during a dance she suddenly leans in for a kiss. That felt pretty awesome. Over the next weeks we go out some more, I feel this is more and more turning into something worth pursuing, when she suddenly sends a text message (from a room next to the one I was in) saying we had to talk. Then she explained she didn't really feel the same for me as I evidently did for her. yay. Ended up making out with her friend at a party the week after, again intoxicated. I feel just a little bit like a slut, but in a good way. Kinda. [/rant] |
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| Neiko |
Posted: May 04, 2011 02:54 am
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Uberzernichter Group: BB:S Team Posts: 905 Joined: January 17, 2006 |
I'm doing better now, it sucks that her bf is a complete dick and won't let us be friends. Every time she asks him about it, he just doesn't want to hear about it or something. So, we ended up talking a bit the other day, and we added each other on face book. When I woke up, she was blocked from me, and won't respond to texts. Thinking about calling, but I'm more worried about what happened to her than anything else. Either way, I'm doing better about it. It's still sad from time to time, but I'm moving on. There are plenty of women out there, most are retarded bitches, but hopefully we'll all find someone "bearable" lol. -------------------- |
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| FirehawkBBs |
Posted: May 04, 2011 09:43 am
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Real zombie Nemesis Group: BB:S Team Posts: 327 Joined: February 09, 2011 |
I found my pc
  But anyways, im glad to hear that you're alright ! This post has been edited by FirehawkBBs on May 04, 2011 09:44 am -------------------- IronOakStudios deserves a new forum :) |
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| iliketoblowzombieheadsoff |
Posted: May 05, 2011 05:10 am
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Ratatatatatatatatatatatattatatt Group: Members Posts: 4896 Joined: May 26, 2006 |
Elite Viking: Welcome baaaaaaaack!!!!! The best thing a mom can do is let her son grab a girl freely... your mom's awesome. Reminds me of my mom. Heheeheheeh But I'm glad the girl got straight-forward with you... unless your explanation kinda made it that way. Nonetheless, it's good to be a slut after getting rejected. Heehee Neiko: It looks as if it's going to be difficult closing things with your former girlfriend..... yet another sign that she isn't for you. The awkward, "wtf just happened?" type-leave is truly confusing... give it some more time. Now I'm sorry if I'm not taking this seriously.... I've never had a girlfriend myself. But countless sharing of other people I know is helping me create more insight about them. -sigh- It'll take forever. -------------------- Current game(s): Uh uh not updatin' this no mo
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| Neiko |
Posted: May 05, 2011 03:05 pm
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Uberzernichter Group: BB:S Team Posts: 905 Joined: January 17, 2006 |
Eh, most of my problem used to be that I didn't want to get embarrassed or rejected, and only wanted to ask women out when I knew it 100%. That obviously doesn't happen often, and honestly, the only way to figure it out is to just throw it out there. I was half living in self misery not knowing if this girl I've been hanging out with likes me or not. Finally asked the other day, and there is a possibility with us =3. -------------------- |
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| gordon_frohman |
Posted: May 08, 2011 02:14 am
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 Frohtastic ! Group: Members Posts: 2357 Joined: November 19, 2006 |
current things.
i am working as a receptionist at the graveyard shift in one of the town's oldest hotels. also supposedly haunted ( and i believe it ) so yeah, now going on a fire round, most of the lights have been flickering today so its a nice and slightly spooky vibe -------------------- |
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| Neiko |
Posted: May 08, 2011 10:11 am
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Uberzernichter Group: BB:S Team Posts: 905 Joined: January 17, 2006 |
fire round? -------------------- |
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| Elite viking |
Posted: May 08, 2011 11:16 pm
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Veteran Lord Carnage Group: Old BB:S Betatesters Posts: 2471 Joined: December 16, 2004 |
@Neiko: Deciding who your girlfriend should talk to and be with sucks massively. One of my female friends (the english language sucks in that department! If I'm talking about a friend of mine who is a girl and say girlfriend -big misunderstanding. I believe I've mentioned this before) is going through something similar. She got dumped, and then her ex hooked up with one of her friends. She was understandably pretty upset about it, and it's only recently that she has tried to patch things up with her friend. It turns out her ex doesn't like at all that they are being friendly again.
It's a stupid thing to do, out of fear you'll steal her away again, showing who's in control in the relationship, I don't know. What I do know is that it shows he really isn't a good guy. But meh, her loss. Moving on to your newest post: Nice! The only way of knowing, just as you said, is asking. Thinking about it (in my experience) is a great way of anihilating every shred of confidence you have, with massive self-doubt and over-analyzing. Yay to that  @Isit: Good to be back man! Credits to the girl for being straight with me, but at the same time, getting that text message absolutely sucked. We usually texted each other with smileys, but now I get a text basically saying "we need to talk." so I almost knew it wasn't good news. But she was trying to be as gentle as possible, saying I would find someone who liked me. Insight about the other sex is a valuable thing. Of course, it is a serious oversimplification to generally state things about all girls. There are very few universal truths about girls. But one gets far with common sense, compliments, and in my recent experience, a little bit of guts to actually take an initiative. Even if it goes nowhere, it's a nice experience. @Frohman: Could it be that the hotel is built on top of an Indian graveyard, a la The Shining? That way, it would literally be the graveyard shift  |
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